The Myth of Life Balance

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The Myth of Life Balance

I talk about how to achieve balance in your life after cancer in a number of my youtube videos. I don’t want The Myth of Life Balance to become a misconception that there’s a perfect balance of life that can happen after cancer. Because there isn’t!

There are many things in our lives we must balance because it is very hard to find the perfect balance that would make everything happy. That’s why I call this post The Myth of Life Balance.

The definition of Balance from my iPhone dictionary simply says “it’s a state of mental steadiness or emotional stability, the habit of calm, behavior, judgment, etc.” 

As we are rebuilding ourselves after treatment, all the testing and procedures have not allowed us to cope with mental hardships. This is due to the protections we put up to protect our egos to protect self-preservation.

We have been thrown back into this world of absolute mayhem because this is a tough transition at the end of the day.

Back to Reality

As we are thrown back into reality, we realize that there are many different angles and different elements to our lives that really create who we are. For example, Family, Friends, and hobbies.

We have become much more aware. Starting to take on all these responsibilities and rekindle relationships and friendships. Simply because of all the little things that create what our life is all about.

When faced with our own mortality, it’s natural to wonder if life will be worth anything without us. In an attempt to overcome this fear and uncertainty, many people decide to create a legacy that lives on in their absence.

It’s very important to understand what The Myth of Life Balance isn’t. Because it isn’t about having all of our elements be perfect. And because of that, everything will never be Time Perfect. You’ll never be able to accomplish everything, and all your needs and wants won’t ever be taken care of. Why is this you ask? Because there’s no such thing as perfect balance, only some balance. And because most of the time, it’s weighted way too heavily on one side. That’s why I call balance a myth. 

Is it Attainable?

A lot of people talk about balance in their lives as this attainable goal. However, I truly don’t believe it is. I believe that the term balance can help you to solve some of these problems. A lot of these unpredictable life experiences brings you to an element of self-awareness. This can help you identify whatever struggle going on in your life at that moment. 

A Tool that can be helpful

That’s why I really want to stress how balance can be most meaningful. It’s easy to take the word balance and its definition way too seriously. Mostly because it’s easy to overlook all the important things that go on in your life.

I like having a little bit of chaos in life, it helps keep you on your toes. All because it keeps things a little bit unpredictable in your life. 

Open-mindedness and flexibility are the keys to success in this mindset. Because focusing on positive relationships will strengthen them as they give you a better perspective.

There’s no denying that life is hard! 

That’s just how life is. I mean, we were able to make it through cancer and now we are survivors. Right! In other words, survivorship is one of the most beautiful things that has ever happened to us survivors. 

We can look at it two ways, as an absolutely glorious type of event that helped open our eyes to who we are and what we’re about.

Or we can take the darker road and go down the rabbit hole of depression and denial. A world that has retreated, most importantly by not wanting to do better for ourselves or help others learn. 

To clarify, It’s important to understand why and how balance is going to help move you forward into the future. 

Balance is different for everyone!

I believe balance means a lot of different things to many different people. It’s like going with the flow, continuing to do the things you’ve been working towards or want to do. The world can be a scary place for many of us.

The world can be unpredictable and full of unexpected things. It is important to be open-minded and flexible. For example, I believe that focusing on positivity with relationships will help strengthen them. And ultimately, you will have a better perspective.

It’s all part of understanding how life works. Being able to take that calm demeanor into your decision-making will show a bit of wisdom in your experience.

We’re all gonna have different opinions, different definitions. Understanding how to compartmentalize and divide your time between responsibility and passion is where you start using your self-awareness.

If we spend time feeling our feelings, listening and understanding them, we can express ourselves better in that moment of clarity. This will lead to the resolution or balance for any issues you are dealing with.

Balance is not a one size fits all idea…

The word balance is one that I will continue to use, cautiously. This mindset has been a good way to help share the idea of what your experiencing. Balance to me means taking everything I know and making sure that good decisions are made with precious time! 

Using my time wisely and identifying those challenges that continue to approach me in life. Using that wisdom to make a decision that’s going to help me and my family into the future. 

Embrace your Balance!

That’s what I want for you as well. I want to make sure that I express my idea, my thought of what balance is, and hope you apply it to yourself. You’re gonna continue to have crazy, weird things happen in your life.

You will have things happen that will make you feel really depressed, you’re gonna have relationships that are going to break. You will have work and job changes. Friends and acquaintances that will pass away. There will be more disappointment!

There are hundreds if not thousands of things that make up our lives, make up our souls and egos. By understanding our self-worth, we can apply balance. This will certainly help us work through the craziness of life. That’s what I want to share with you. My hope is you’re able to take this and mold it into yourself. 

Balance is a tricky thing to find. There are many different definitions. Above all, finding what works for you will make the world feel less chaotic!

Most importantly, balance is a universal concept that’s been mentioned and used many different ways.

To sum up, Finding a definition that fits everyone is hard. Everyone lives a busy life with pressure from different angles, like family obligations or being active in society. If we have too much on our plates (or not enough time), things get messy and hard to manage. Finding your own definition of balance may help!

About the Author

Todd Franzen is a Stage 4 Lymphoma Survivor. Living in Breckenridge Colorado

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